When he leaves his tidy apartment in an ocean-side city somewhere in America, Aaron turns on the radio to a light rock station. Over the crash of the waves, he spares no details as he describes how much he hated the fact that he was gay, how the last thing in the world he wanted to do was act on his desire to have sex with another man. Aaron interrupts himself to eye a woman in shorts jogging by. The curve of their legs. Self-reconstruction is what people in my profession I am a practicing psychotherapist specialize in, but when it comes to someone like Aaron, most of us draw the line.
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To all of my Christian brothers and sisters who insist that homosexuality is a choice, I need to break down and finally admit something: I agree with you. But I guess that's largely the crux of the problem we have here. I think you use your terms too loosely without really thinking them through. When you say quite matter-of-factly that homosexuality is a choice, I'm not sure you really know in that moment, just what you mean by "homosexuality". Far too often Christian, when you make the statement that being gay is a sin, what you're really doing without realizing it is reducing all LGBT people down to a sex act -- as if that alone defines sexuality. You're denying any emotional component in their lives, any capacity to feel real love or show genuine affection toward someone else.
Most professionals agree that sexual orientation and gender identity are not things that a person can change. Various groups claim to be able to change sexual orientation and gender identity through therapy. There is no scientific basis for these claims, and the success rate is very dubious. Often people in such programs emerge feeling bad about themselves, and experience guilt when they are not able to change.
People choose to be gay. They are making an immoral choice, which government should discourage. Sexual preference is biologically determined. Government should protect gay people from discrimination because homosexuality is an unalterable aspect of their identity. These two answers have something in common: With both of them, the science conveniently supports the moral decision.